See the pattern.
Go beneath what you do to understand what’s driving it. Your Enneagram subtype offers a place to begin.
Discover your Enneagram type and subtype with Emma, your personal growth companion. Then bring that understanding into your relationships, your leadership, and your everyday life.
Created by psychologist Dr. Shelley Prevost,
founder of Big Self School.
Big Self School. A personal growth school. Understand your patterns. Find your own path. Live a life that feels like you.
Saying yes when you mean no. Holding everything together. Reacting to someone you love in a way you wish you hadn’t.
You can understand yourself on paper and still get caught in the same patterns. Meanwhile, your relationships, and the life you want to be living, keep waiting.
What if your next step is
seeing yourself more clearly?
What are you afraid might happen if you say what you actually want?
A possibility: a yes you mean. A no you can stand behind.A little understanding can open up a little more choice.
Go beneath what you do to understand what’s driving it. Your Enneagram subtype offers a place to begin.
Those familiar ways of coping have a story. Understanding them creates space to question what you still need.
A more honest yes. A calmer conversation. A moment when you stay connected to yourself and someone you love.
Small moments. A life that feels more your own.
Emma is your personal growth companion, built by Dr. Shelley Prevost from her approach to helping people understand themselves.
Rooted in Enneagram subtyping and informed by psychological, existential, and spiritual perspectives, she helps you explore what’s beneath the surface, and what it means in your everyday life.
Discover your type & subtype ↗Illustrative text-message concept, not a customer conversation.
Your $49 typing package with Emma goes deeper: discover your type and subtype, receive your personal guides, and spend a month exploring what you learn with Emma.
Explore the $49 package ↗Not ready for the full package? Start with the free subtype quiz. About 5 minutes, no sign-up to start.
Give yourself 60–90 minutes. Pause and return whenever you need.
Your Book of You and Growth Path are yours to keep.
Continuing with Emma is your choice. No automatic subscription.
Notice what happens when you feel hurt, say what you need, and explore a different response with someone you love.
Understand what drives you under pressure, and how your patterns shape the way you lead and work with others.
Recognize an automatic yes, make room for what matters, and practice choices that feel more like you.
Begin with Emma. Explore further through coaching, team workshops, and the growing school.

I’m Shelley. I created Big Self School to help people find their own path toward a more conscious, meaningful life.
My work brings psychological depth into the moments that matter: how you lead, how you love, and how you stay true to yourself. Emma is an extension of that approach.
“Working with Shelley was incredibly helpful for me to start to build that confidence and set goals.”
“Coaching with Shelley has been life-changing.”
“Without that perspective and help at that time, I don't think I could have continued on.”
“She could walk into a room, read the emotional dynamics in about five seconds, say the thing nobody else could name.”
“She is able to look and see, kind of the light in people.”
“That phrase — get out of your head, get into your body — has been probably one of the most significant parts of my transformation.”
“The value I got out of working with Shelley for a couple of years is life-changing for me — personally and professionally.”
“Most coaches are going to work on your business. Shelley works on you.”
“I was looking for community — people who get it when you say you're working on yourself. You delivered that and so much more. Learning my Enneagram type helped me understand why I do what I do and gave me practical tools to show up differently. I use conscious leadership tools constantly — at work, at home, everywhere. It's changed how I lead and how I live. If you're on the fence, just do it. You'll leave with clarity, community, and actual practices that work.”
“I knew the Enneagram was valuable, but I was only scratching the surface. You helped me see which of my behaviors are healthy and which ones I default to when I'm struggling. The biggest revelation? I have way more autonomy over my patterns than I thought. What surprised me most was the energy in the room — people who genuinely wanted to dig in and figure out who they are. That alone was powerful.”
“As a leader, I know the tactics matter — but without the core work of understanding who you are, everything goes sideways. You gave me exactly that. The conscious leadership framework? I use it every day with my team and my kids. It's transformed how I show up. As an Enneagram 3, I loved celebrating and commiserating with others who share my type, and I left with a practical growth path — not just theory, but here's what you do tomorrow. Yes, it requires vulnerability with strangers. But the atmosphere makes it feel productive, not performative. Run, don't walk. This will be the most personally and professionally rejuvenating part of your quarter.”
“This past week, our top leaders spent time learning more about themselves and each other. We spent time with Big Self School learning all about the Enneagram. We talked deeply about communication. How we each receive and relay info. How we problem solve. What thriving looks like for each of us, and what stress looks like for each of us, too. Our enneagram session was not only the high of my week but probably the high of my month. I left more connected to myself and my team of leaders, and I feel incredibly confident the dividends on that time spent will be enormous.”
“Your whole business is a tool for self-discovery — it shows you who you are under pressure. You helped me pair that reality with the Enneagram framework so I could move through challenges more efficiently and actually enjoy the path instead of just suffering through it. Talking with other professionals who share my type helped me see that my perceived weaknesses are actually strengths — and where to watch for blind spots. The conscious leadership tools are brilliantly simple: Are you in your truest self or your lower self? If you're below, take time to get above. Being in a room with people who are genuinely supportive in their own growth work — that's huge.”
Start with understanding yourself.
Find the support that fits your life.
Looking for community? Explore our upcoming free office hours ↗
It may be, especially if you haven’t explored your subtype or the motivations beneath your familiar patterns. Emma’s typing package includes a personalized Book of You and Growth Path that go beyond a type label.
The assessment and interview usually take about 60–90 minutes in total. You can pause and return. Giving Emma time to get to know you is part of the process.
You keep your Book of You and Growth Path documents. If you want to continue with Emma, you choose to subscribe. You won’t be enrolled automatically.
No. Emma is an AI personal growth companion built from Shelley’s approach. You can use her on your own or alongside work with a coach. Human coaching and team facilitation are also available through Big Self School.
Everyone with a personal growth question is welcome. These open Q&A gatherings are planned to remain free. The schedule and registration details are still being worked out.