Boundaries: Mending and Maintaining Good Fences

Interview by
Dr. Chad Prevost
Dr. Shelley Prevost
Published on
December 4, 2019

In this episode

What to expect in this episode: Fuzzy boundaries, what they are and how they manifest. What boundaries require. How to identify the sources of unclear boundaries. How to establish boundaries without always having to talk about it. How to consistently practice good boundaries.

We also ask: Why do we need boundaries? Why are boundaries harder to maintain than they used to be? Let’s say we follow the principles and values about maintaining boundaries, but we’re not always working with healthy people in the first place. Aren’t we putting ourselves at risk to some extent between us and the people we’re putting a boundary up to?

What about personal boundaries? Are they any different than setting structure, creating habits and patterns for ourselves?

All this and more on this week's episode of Big Self with Shelley and Chad Prevost.

Our Discussion

1:56--Khalil Gibran and the idea of separateness in our togetherness

3:25--Doing some mythbusting in the Boot Camp

8:02--What boundaries are, taking action and defining your core values

13:27--True vulnerability cannot happen without good boundaries

16:11--Experiment with your boundaries, and inch toward healthier boundaries

19:54--What if boundaries at work aren’t clear?

23:35--Discussing the 20% Doctrine: paying employees to goof off and have fun and how it can drive profits

25:47--Clarifying your boundaries is essential although most don’t want to do it

Guest Speakers

Shelley & Chad Prevost

Poem “The Mending Wall” by Robert Frost

The 20% Doctrine by Ryan Tate